Dream Question: why am I dreaming of an old house?

Dream Question: why am I dreaming about a house I grew up in?

Delphi’s reply:

Houses in dreams often symbolise what’s happening for us, outside and in. How the house is built and how it looks can all represent what we show to the world around us, friends and family included. If the house is tidy and looking good, this suggests you want people to think the same of you.

What’s going on inside the house can reveal how you really feel. So, if the house is run down, that might be how you feel when you’re awake. 

If you’re looking for somewhere to live, this would be an obvious explanation. If you don’t recognise the house in your dream and are nervous about going inside, it maybe you’re covering new ground in your life and may need to explore your feelings or options further, but are nervous about doing so. 

Houses can represent your situation at the time of the dream,  but also echo moments from the past.  Dreaming of an old house may mean that something about your current situation is reminding you of your past, or that there are areas of your past that may need to be explored to help you move forward. 

Houses can represent your situation at the time of the dream, but also echo moments from the past.

Take some time to talk this through with someone helpful if you feel you need to explore the past. You may find keeping a dream diary useful, so you can spot patterns in your dreaming. 

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Dream question: What do dreams of being pregnant mean; news of a birth, death or something else?

Your dream question: “I have heard that dreams of pregnancy means news of a death. Is this true?”
Delphi writes:

The Chester Beatty Papyrus #3, discovered in 1931, contained a manuscript dating back to 1220BC which first suggested the theory of opposites. It’s most likely from this, that we have developed a myth dreams of birth mean death and vice versa.  People have told me about dreams which predict events and different cultures have different views; at the time of writing, there is no hard research to support the suggestion that dreams of being pregnant are news of a death – so that’s a relief.

Pregnancy dreams are very common, even men dream of being pregnant!

Pregnancy dreams often represent the birth of new ideas, new projects and creative changes which may be ahead.

You might be recognising changes within yourself, or your potential in a particular area although it’s important to note that like a pregnancy, it might take some time for the idea or ‘project’ to come to fruition.

To dream of someone else being pregnant, whilst in some cases can be predictive, can suggest we are aware of ourselves taking on some new qualities, which we might identify with in that person. For men, dreaming of being pregnant can be an acknowledgement to take responsibility for a particular area of their life (although this would depend on how they view pregnancy).

Overall, though, pregnancy dreams are positive and will often depict that transition will be gradual and that with patience the idea or project will grow at a healthy and natural pace.

If you’re pregnant, your dreams can be relevant to the preparations for your new arrival. Pregnancy dreams when pregnant can acknowledge the process of conception, anxieties about the pregnancy or labour, relationships with people whilst you’re pregnant and what life will be like once the baby’s born.

Some Top Tips for Pregnancy Dreams:

* Let your ideas grow – Consider if your dream is acknowledging an idea you’ve had which, like a pregnancy, needs time to grow and develop. Don’t rush things, take your time to let these ideas unfold so that they can develop in a healthy, natural way.

* Acknowledge the message – If you’re passed child bearing age (or can’t have children), this doesn’t mean that your pregnancy dream is not relevant. Sometimes pregnancy dreams can be asking you to acknowledge the desire to have children, even when older (and grieving for not being able to have them) or that you would like the opportunity to “look after” people who are vulnerable.

* Consider your responsibilities – If being pregnant is your worst nightmare then this can suggest that there is an issue with responsibility or feeling responsible for something you didn’t want. A bit like the saying “being left holding the baby “.

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Dream question: why am I hearing my name?

“What about hearing your name called whilst asleep when no ones around?”
Delphi writes:

This is an interesting phenomenon and I hope firstly to reassure you, you’re not alone; many people have shared their experience of this with me. Hearing your name called out in a dream can feel so real you wake up convinced someone is in the room with you.

Some people will find that external noises in their dreams influence their dream content; so if you dream the ‘phone is ringing you may wake up to find it actually is. (This is similar to dreaming someone’s at the door, to find the doorbell going as you “come to”). 

But what about hearing your name? I talk about this in more detail in my book Answers in the Dark: Grief, Sleep and How Dreams Can Help You Heal. The book aims to join the dots between our sleep, dreams and our mental health, specifically how grief shows up, even if no one has died. I explore some of the big myths of sleep, offer a Sleep Cycle Repair Kit including mindfulness activities as well as some top tips to help you decode your dreams.

You can find out more in the video below or order on Amazon.

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Dream Question: what does my train dream mean?

Your dream question: Sab writes: “I’m standing on an oval bank next to a train track, watching a speeding train going around it. It flashes past me at top speed almost sucking me under, which is often when I wake up with a jolt. What does this mean?”
Delphi replies:

Trains in dreams will often symbolise our journey through life. Many people will say they have missed the train in a dream which can suggest they feel they have missed out on an important opportunity. In your case you were watching the train, almost as if you feel are an observer of your own life at times, unable to influence the events around you. The high speed of the train can symbolise the pace of the life you lead.

This is emphasised by you standing on an oval bank. Paying attention to this kind of detail in a dream is important because you are specific with the language you use. I’m wondering if, at the time you had this dream, you felt you were going round in circles in a particular area of your life.

The fact that you mention being sucked in by the dream could also be a metaphor that you may have a tendency to get drawn in to situations which then leave you stranded or wondering how you arrived at certain points in your life. Waking up with a jolt in the way you’ve described can be an indicator of stress so making sure you are taking positive action to manage your stress effectively, will be important.

My top tips:

* If you feel out of control of certain parts of your life, it can be useful to focus on what you can control. Consider writing a list of areas in your life you can influence (like managing your stress) and how you will take positive steps forward with these goals

* If you sometimes finds yourself going round in circles (or repeating the same unhelpful patterns) take some time to think about what you do want and what direction you’re taking. Be specific and include a timeframe for your positive intentions. Remember to identify useful resources (like learning materials, books etc) which will encourage your positive, personal development

* Identify what’s causing you stress and what steps you can take to manage it, including ways to slow down the pace of your life. This may be writing a “to do” list or just focusing on healthy sleep. Remember to set yourself up for a good nights slumber with a positive bedtime routine, in the hour before bedtime listen to calming music and meditate before sleep.

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Why is it so hard to sleep away from home?

This is known as the First Night Effect and I talk about this and other experiences and phenomena in my book Answers in the Dark: Grief, Sleep and How Dreams Can Help You Heal. The book aims to join the dots between our sleep, dreams and our mental health, specifically how grief shows up, even if no one has died. I explore some of the big myths of sleep, offer a Sleep Cycle Repair Kit including mindfulness activities as well as some top tips to help you decode your dreams. 

You can find out more in the video below or order on Amazon.

Available on Amazon