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“Last night, I dreamt my partner was cheating. Does this mean they are?”
It makes sense that we worry about this, especially if we think it might be a predictive dream. Thankfully, much like dreaming of an ex, this is more likely to be a reflection of a fear or thoughts on our mind, than it being about to come true. Of course, if you’re worried that your partner is having an affair, it’s probably more helpful to have a conversation with them, as to why that’s on your mind.
This said, if it was that your partner was having sex in a dream, then this may be more about a connection they have with someone in your orbit, rather than signs they’re up to no good. Sex in dreams is actually rarely about sex, and more often about control and connection. So if they’re cheating with someone you know in the dream, it might be you’ve been thinking about how friendly they someone else. That doesn’t mean there’s something to be worried about, but it’s worth exploring if there’s any jealousy there (about how well they get on with others), or something else that’s niggling away.
If it’s a dream you keep having, it’s also worth keeping a dream diary. You might start to see patterns in your dreaming, and explore why you have this dream when you do. There’s a tip in the video below, and I also offer a template in Answers In The Dark.
Some dreamers who contact me tell me they’ve actually woken up from the dream and given their partner a hard time – because it felt so real. But if you have a healthy relationship with your partner, it can be more helpful to talk this through with them, especially if you’re just not sure where it’s come from.
Organisations like Relate can help in the UK, if you think your relationship is in trouble, and if it’s become violent organisations like Refuge can help.
Delphi is the author of Answers In The Dark: Grief, Sleep and How Dreams Can Help You Heal, out now on Amazon and Hive. The Dreams Maven™ is part of the Helping You Sparkle™ portfolio. You might also like Monday Mojo™.
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